Being spiritual doesn’t mean being polite.
It doesn’t mean staying soft when your soul is screaming.
It doesn’t mean saying “love and light” when what you really mean is “f*ck all the way off.”
It doesn’t mean swallowing your truth to keep the peace.
In fact, the most spiritual thing you can do some days is draw a boundary, say no, and walk away barefoot holding a mug that says “I’m all love and light… and a little go f*ck yourself.”
Because here’s the truth:
✨ You can’t fake a frequency.
✨ You can’t bypass a trigger with sage and good vibes.
✨ And you definitely can’t “positive mantra” your way out of chronic people-pleasing.
If you’re constantly trying to keep the vibe high while your nervous system is running on fumes — you’re not healing. You’re hiding.
So let’s talk about it, because honestly I feel like its toxicity wrapped in a spiritual blanket so people are expected to swallow it like some higher moral ground. You know the deal:
You’ve been told to “just breathe,” “just let it go,” “just raise your vibration.” But when your toddler is screaming, your inbox is full, your laundry pile is breeding, and your body’s buzzing with tension… Yeah. That advice can feel like gaslighting plain and simple.
You’re not broken. You’re just full.
And that fullness deserves honour — not shame.
Why you’re not broken — you’re just carrying too much, and spiritual glitter won’t fix it in fact it just triggers you! Now here comes another buzz word “triggered” is… well, a bit triggering. Like, great. Now I’m overwhelmed, under-slept, holding four bags, remembering I forgot to respond to that text from last Thursday, and ALSO emotionally dysregulated? Add a chakra meme on top of that and my head might actually pop off.
But let’s break it down — not with fluff, not with love-and-light bypassing, but with real talk.
So what is a trigger? It’s not just about big trauma or dramatic outbursts. A trigger can be small. Subtle. It’s your body saying, “Hey, this feels familiar — and not in a good way.”
Like when your kid won’t put their shoes on and your whole nervous system goes HIGH PITCH SCREACHING Or when someone says, “Just let it go,” and you want to throw you crystals at them. That’s a trigger. Not because you’re irrational. But because you’re carrying more than people can see.
It’s not the shoes. It’s the unseen load. The hundred tiny things you’re managing. The expectations. The pressure to stay calm, stay kind, stay soft… even when you’re crumbling. What if your trigger isn’t the enemy? What if it’s a message?
A flare from your body saying:
“Something here needs attention.”
“Something needs to be felt.”
“Something needs to be put down, or screamed out, or left unread for now.”
It doesn’t make you dramatic. It makes you aware. It real and now and that feelng needs validating.
Come back to your body. One breath. One hand on your heart. One gentle tap on your leg.
(Not because it’ll fix it — but because it brings you home.)
Tell the truth.
To a friend. A journal. A WhatsApp voice note. “I’m losing it” is sacred.
Lower the bar.
This is not the day to ascend. This is the day to survive with grace.
Call out the BS.
If someone tells you to “just choose peace” when your toddler is screaming into your eyeballs — bless them, and then mute them.
The deeper truth?
You are not “too much.”
You are not failing.
You are not unspiritual because you get mad, or sad, or shut down.
You are carrying A LOT.
You’re emotionally intelligent enough to notice what’s happening inside you.
You’re brave enough to sit with discomfort instead of covering it in spiritual glitter.
And that? That’s the real work.
Forget the fake zen.
We don’t need more people pretending. We need more people pausing.
Pausing to breathe.
Pausing to feel.
Pausing to say, “This is hard, and I’m human, and I don’t need to bypass that.”
So, if you’ve been wondering:
- “Why do I feel SO reactive?”
- “Why can’t I just be the chill, peaceful version of me?”
- “Am I even spiritual if I’m raging at breakfast?”
Here’s your reminder:
You are spiritual. You are sacred. And you are allowed to be messy, mad, triggered, and still divinely aligned.
Being spiritual isn’t about being nice.
It’s about being real.
Real boundaries. Real emotions. Real ownership of your energy.
Not fake zen. Not spiritual bypassing. Not staying small to stay palatable.
✨ The world doesn’t need more polite.
✨ It needs more honest.
✨ And you, in all your raw, ragey, regulated glory? That’s the real magic.
As always with love and empowering energy
Nat xx
